Subject: Project - The Joys & Lessons of Twentysomethings
I'm working on a little project for my blog - just for fun.
I'd like to ask you to email me your thoughts and/or comments. Humorous ones are welcome as well as bland yet important ones. Your names will not be included to respect your privacy. Feel free to share with your friends and have them send me their contributions. Thanks for your contributions!
I'm compiling a list called, "The Joys & Lessons of Twenty-somethings." The list covers things we've learned during our twenties and will bring with us into our thirtysomething years. For those of you who are not in your twentysomethings, please tell me what you would like us to learn or realize... or what you remember from when you were at that age... or what you wish your adult children would learn or have learned. :)
We entered this decade of our life as kids in college and are leaving with a little more wisdom (I hope!) such as...
1. how to manage our money better
2. only one or no pet is more than enough instead of few if you're still living in an apartment.
3. no more hand-me down and recycled furniture from our friends and relatives, et al... and that IKEA furniture, altho cheaper, do not last and isn't worth the money you spend on it
4. Realizing you should start stopping telling your parents about your finances as time goes on
5. Realization that you are on your way to being "the next generation" of adults in your family as your grandparents and elders start to pass away and say hello to God.
6. You want to live by yourself, your significant other, and/or are done living with roommates. If you cannot afford to, you want just one roommate. Some of us still love having few roommates.
7. With each relationship and date, you are one step closer to the person you are meant to be with if you want a life partner... or that you don't want a life partner at this time.
8. The older one is numerically doesn't necessarily mean a person is more mature or secure. Age is just a number for some people.
9. You find your first white/gray hair. You start doing things to prevent skin wrinkles. Something MAY start going south somewhere on your body.
10. You start to realize you really do need to start exercising on a regular basis before it's too late.
11. You may start to need to buying bigger Advil or Tylenol bottles more frequently.
12. Hangovers begin to affect you differently during your late 20s than during your early 20s. You do not necessarily bounce back as quickly as you think you will, and you learn this the next morning. These mornings may become less frequent.
13. Your friends seem to be getting engaged, married and be popping out babies all year long. You have a frequent-flyer mileage or good customer account qualifying you for good deals/discounts with http://www.amazon.com/, http://www.weddingchannel.com/, and http://www.babiesrus.com/ as well as at least one airline company. You also know what the "To Do" list looks like for organizing a wedding and have hosted at least one baby and/or wedding shower. You also begin to learn quickly parental issues and hear your friends talk about their kids' doo-doos, farts, feeding schedules, how to soothe a crying baby, and expensive diapers. You also realize that there really is a difference between parents and non-parents sometimes. A whole new world and social life opens up once you become a parent.
14. You finally figured out how to either budget for high-end clothes yet get your bills paid or how to look as if you shop in high-end stores without wrecking your credit cards.
15. Your ideal boy/girlfriend and what you look for in a person/friend changes significantly.
16. You're still "growing up." Adults are just big kids who know a little more. The world is one huge classroom.
17. You finally start to think you may understand your current HMO health insurance company's rules, billing, and "this is not a bill" statements.
18. You've been through at least 5 different health insurance companies while trying to "build up" your career after college or figure out what the heck you want to do with the rest of your life after college.
19. You've seen a therapist at least once. More often than not, it has something to do with an issue(s) with your parents or partners (or lack of).
20. At least 5 of your deaf friends have worked as a case manager or residential counselor somewhere in the United States at one point during the past 5 years. You know at least 2 deaf people who have served in the Peace Corps. For you hearing folks, at least 5 of your friends have worked as a waiter, cashier or actor within the past 5 years. Yes, community theaters, convenience stores, and fast-food restaurants apply.
21. You begin to see a big difference between yourself in your late twenties and people in their early twenties. Things that people older than you have been saying for years make a lot more sense to you now. You actually start to apply them to your life.
Regardless of whether or not you are in your twenties now, please send me anything you think of that you learned, enjoyed, or experienced during your twenties.... or wish you learned back then! Or, it' can be something you still are learning or are coming to realize. It can be serious or fun. Just send it my way.
I'll send you a copy of the list once it's done.