Thursday, July 29, 2004

Every Rose Has Its Thorns

Every rose has its thorns. This reminds me of a song Poison wrote during the 80's or 90s about how every rose had its thorns.

I learned this song during one of these silly mandated singing classes during my first year of full-time mainstreaming in Albany as a preteen. I would just stand there and mouth whatever I saw on the music sheet although I had no idea what the heck was being sung. When the teacher wasn't looking, I'd just not mouth-sing. I'd stare at other students singing and how the music teacher was into conducting and directing the class. I also focused on memorizing words to the songs on these music sheets since that was the first time I really became familiar with songs besides patriotic songs sung-signed during morning pledges to the American flag in class.

Back to how every rose has its thorns. While talking with a friend recently, we talked about how the analogy of each rose with its thorns = people with past scars, open wounds, and nurturing self without losing sight, courage, faith, and resilience.

As you may know, roses are beautiful flowers. Yet, all roses have their thorns. Even scars and thorns on these roses can be beautiful although painful. These thorns were part of roses, no matter what, as these roses grew.

No matter how the stem looks with broken-off, budding, and big thorns, the rose is always beautiful.  You may choose to remove these thorns. When these thorns are removed, scars can be left behind. It hurts less than before yet you still see the scars. You don't forget that the thorns were there before. Don't focus on the scars too much and lose appreciation of the whole rose. Yet the rose grows and blooms with and without thorns. It is not easy to feel the pain of these thorns such as past traumas, sufferings, secrets, and putting on a bravado when actually hurting inside. There's always been rose buds and blooming roses inside and outside. Never forget that there are roots, stems, leaves, and flowers within the rose. And, remember to prune as needed, including removing thorns and taking care of injuries so the rose can keep on blooming and thriving even further.  And, remember to smell the roses while you're at it.